ABOUT OCTOBER MEETUP
Last night was the October Meetup for Success with the Opposite Sex: Get Related not Dated (TM). It’s been way too long since I blogged about the group.
On October 23rd, as usual held on the fourth Friday of the month, there were 4 guests (a good turnout for 6 rsvps). Two didn’t come because I failed to confirm correctly and my cell was on vibrate all night. My sincere apologies. I didn’t send address to one and tried to reach me on my cell but I missed her call. The other was scared off by the informal topic of NFL for dating. She thought it was about football but it was not. It was about dating. About taking the process of the NFL draft and applying it to dating selection (context, quick selection through the candidates who are not a fit, etc.). She too called beforehand but my cell was on vibrate.
In spite of my own faux pas, we had a great conversation with Indian food which was much enjoyed. It was a free for all. We only spoke of the NFL for dating concept for no more than 10 mins at best. The rest were just questions, thoughts, laughter, and just hanging out.
A BOOK IN THE MAKING
The reason behind my lack of workability this month is that I’ve been thinking of ending SWTOS in its current form. For just over 4 years, as many ppl that are members of the meetup have passed through my doorway to attend the event. It began in the Village for about a year and a half. Moved to Bed-Stuy for a year. Then to my present location in Crown Hghts. Each event has had anywhere from 4 to 23 ppl but on average about 10-11 people each month.
The ratings have been consistently high (averaging at least a 4 out of 5 or higher at 99% of the events). So this is a successful event and meetup but lately I have been spreading myself thin AND I want to take time writing about all the insights about men and women I have gathered from these events. Several ppl think I have the potential for a bestseller on my hands. I would have never had this opportunity if not for all the ppl who have participated since Aug 2005. Special thanks to Cherryanne Nicholas, Eric Jordan, Atiba McLean, Laurene Williams, Melvin Alvares, Theresa Labrey, and Heru Saba (sorry if I’ve missed someone) who were the earliest members and my partners in development.
THE FUTURE OF SWTOS
Thus, I am not sure if I am doing another event this year. The fourth Fri of November is the day after Thanksgiving (I will probably go be with my mom in Maryland) and the Dec date is Christmas.
I’d love to get a group together to organize something special in Dec or early Jan but I am not interested in doing it alone and Zach is interested in this too. It could be just be after Dec 13 when my classes end or just before or after New Years Eve. So if you like planning events or have a crew of ppl who might be interested, let me know if you’d join our planning committee.
Here’s the idea: A Success with the Opposite Sex Extravaganza with live musical performances, catered food, held in a really luscious space in Soho (we’d need to schedule a date soon and the fee is $500). It would be for an equal number of men and women at $35-40/person. It would start at 9pm and end around midnight. And of course there would be a SWTOS Get Related not Dated exercise for mingling and practicing intimacy.
INTERESTED IN JOINING THE PRODUCTION TEAM for an end of the year event?
Email me at kyraocity@gmail.com
Send your name, cell phone, best times to reach you and what you’d like to offer.
Please send any suggestions of locations, artists, and possible themes esp. if there was some past theme you think would work again.
Thanks, Kyra (the social maven of intimacy)
