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Dear Brothers,
I have an invitation for you. Last month I had Zach ask for more men. This time, I am putting on my feminine charm.

I know Friday night you probably hang with your boyz or simply unwind in front of a good movie, right? But not THIS Friday July 24th (or any other 4th Fri of the month) if you ask me.

Let me tell you a story first. I recently ended a relationship and started looking again (yes call me!). Last week, I contacted a brother thru Facebook who is about my age with similar interests. It was someone I had met years ago but only once. I don’t even remember what he looks like but I asked if he was single and looking. He said, “I got my heart bruised recently.” Hmmm?

There’s another brother from the meetup who in the recent past shared that he was tired of getting hurt. “I don’t understand women” was his complaint. Ever considered that a complaint of any kind usually hides an undelivered request or communication?

MEETUP MONTH: LOVE LETTERS FROM THE WHITEHOUSE
At the July 2009 meetup we are writing love letters ( we call it). Your letter could be making that request of that lady or of the unique women you intend to meet in the future. In the spirit of the Obamas, it’s time to show your love for the opposite sex in novel ways. (Photo from BET.com. “I never worry about…fidelity…that is between Barack and me, and if somebody can come between us, we didn’t have much to begin with.”– Michelle Obama)

Tonight is the night, gentelmen, to stop hanging with your boyz to hide your fears (unless you have special plans). Tonight is about not about being dated, gettin old and cynical, sitting in front of the flat screen (record that show or save that DVD!). This is the PERFECT night to feel the attention of a date without the rejection.

I told that brother with the bruised heart that no doctor would buy that story. I also told him that I can relate. He held on to his complaint but after a bit of dialogue began to lighten up. That story was keeping him from meeting an extraordinary woman. It coulda been me. He liked the invitation but he’s allergic to cats LOL.

Being with the opposite sex without expectation is the key to getting back in the game, putting the ball back on the court. You keep taking the ball home and we can’t play when we meet. Remember what makes the connection between the sexes special is feeling the chemistry that nature designed to make you go mmm––.

I wanted to write you an alluring letter, a love letter to you, YES, YOU reading this!! Come on, you ain’t doing nothing tonight. Come be with us! Only $10 at door, rather than $15. Start your engine again for the lady you are waiting for. But don’t wait til she shows up or when you think your over the other one. Start to warm that car up tonight. May sound corny, but we carry people in the car of our heart. Keep it warm and tuned up!

I won’t offer you an incentive. I was just watched an amazing live TED talk by Daniel Pink about incentives at work (I am a TED Fellow, visit http://ted.com). Social science has proven for 40 yrs, they don’t work. What works is what Google does: they give their workers 20% free time to pursue their own thing. What works is Autonomy Mastery and Purpose, in this case with women in your presence (LOL). That’s what I offer at SWTOS. No tips. Ppl of the opposite sex to practice being open with, so you can feel your autonomy, mastery and purpose being fulfilled.

We all want a partner of some kind or another. But more often than not we stop getting in the car to go out anymore.

If you choose to come, clean your rims and a little cologne won’t hurt!!
If not, thanks for considering all this and do start your engine soon and join us next time!

PS. We have 3 men rsvpd and 7 women. I’m just sayin, you’re wanted! Vroom-vroom!

Thanks so much,
Kyra (the social midwive of intimacy between the sexes)

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